Wednesday, 5 February 2014

ઉત્કંઠા ની આરે- Utkanthani Aare by Rutvik Wadkar




ઉત્કંઠા ની  આરે હું નીકળ્યો તો દૂધ લેવા 
ને છાશ લઇ પાછો આવ્યો;
લઇ ફાટલી થેલી ને ચક વક નજર જેવી; 
ટપકતી લાળ ને થાપ દઈ  પાછો આવ્યો .
                                                       ઉત્કંઠા ની આરે...


પાનેતર ની વાત લઇ ચાલ્યો;
ને બેડું કાણું લઇ પાછો આવ્યો;
પૂછશો ના મને, કે એ બેડા ના કાણા નું કારણ
એક જીવ ને શ્વાસ દઈ પાછો આવ્યો. 
                                                         ઉત્કંઠા ની આરે...

મકાન    સામે      એક     હસ્તી      વસી;
હોય, એની આંખો જોવા મારી નજર ખસી; 
પૂછશો ના મને કોણ હતું ? , એ પાપણ ઉઠાવવાનું કારણ
એક ગુલાબ દઈ પાછો આવ્યો.
                                                           ઉત્કંઠા ની આરે...

ઇતિહાસ ખોટો શું હતો ખબર હતી;
ભવિષ્ય ની  વાર્તા  ઘડાવી   હતી ;
પુછ્શોના કોણે કહી આ વાત?, જાણવાનું કારણ
ત્યારે બે ઉદગાર !! લઇ ને પાછો આવ્યો.
                                                             ઉત્કંઠા ની આરે...

કબૂલું છું ,
ગુજારી છે મેં પણ  આવી   જીંદગી;
ખુશ રહું ને રાખું ખુદાને એ બંદગી;
પૂછશો ના કેમ આવું બોલે છે, કહેવાનું કારણ 
એક મુકામ લઇને પાછો આવ્યો !
                                                               ઉત્કંઠા ની આરે...

- ઋત્વિક વાડકર 

Sunday, 28 July 2013

બસ છે..... (A conversation with my God)



મનને શાંતિ મળે ના મળે, તું મારા મન માં મળે એટલું બસ છે;
કોઈ દોસ્તાર બને ના બને, તું મને દિલદાર મળે, બસ છે.

દુનિયા તારી સ્તુતિ ગાવા રાગડાય તાણે, પણ તું ક્યાં ટસ નો મસ છે;
હું થોડું ગાઉં , ને તું મારી સામેવાળામાં બેઠો મલકાય,           બસ છે.

લખાણની  વાતો વાંચી નથી, તારી એક કાવ્યપંક્તિ મળે બસ છે;
હું તો કવ છું મૌન રહે, બોલીશ જ ના, એક ઈશારો મળે, બસ છે.

તારા પ્રેમ ને હું શું ખોલું? , તું મારો યાર જબરદસ્ત છે;
તું મને સામે મળે કે ના મળે, મારામાં તું એક એહસાસ બસ છે.

તારું સર્જન તને યાદ કેમનું કરે?, એતો તારી ચીજ બડી મસ્ત છે;
તારી યાદમાં તારા હાથ નો કોળીયો ખાઉં ને તું એને પચાવે એટલું બસ છે.

મારી માં ને રીઝવવા લોકો તને છોડી જાગે, એ બધા જ અલમસ્ત છે;
હું તો બસ તને ભજું, ને  તું માં બની તારા ખોળામાં લે એટલું બસ છે.

દુનિયા ના દરવાજા ખુલા દેખું છું, પણ લોકો મારાથી ત્રસ્ત છે;
હું દોડતો તારી પાસે આવું ને તું બોલાવે એટલું બસ છે.

વડીલો તારું નામ બોલે, કે તું દુનિયાદારી માં વ્યસ્ત છે;
હું આમ તો એકલો છું, તું તારા વિચાર વહેંચાવ્ડાવે એટલું બસ છે.

વિશ્વ  આખું તને ચાર દીવાલે સજાવે ને બોલે તું કેટલો તંદુરસ્ત છે;
હું તને મારા માં જોવું , ને તું બીજા માં દેખાય એટલી દ્રષ્ટિ મળે એ બસ છે.

- ઋત્વિક વાડકર

Saturday, 15 June 2013

Thursday, 6 June 2013

કવિ ની કલ્પના અધુરી રહી ગઈ



કવિ ની કલ્પના અધુરી રહી ગઈ
એકલવાયા વાયરામાં એક અર્પણા અધુરી રહી ગઈ;
કોણ જાણે ? કોને કહું ? કવિ ની કલ્પના અધુરી રહી ગઈ.

શાળાની પાટલીએ ખોતરી'તી એને,
આંગણાની દીવાલોએ સજાવી'તી એને,
પરિવર્તનની    બારી   એની   નજર    દૂર    કરી  ગઈ;
કોણ જાણે ? કોને કહું ? કવિ ની કલ્પના અધુરી રહી ગઈ.

કદાચ વિષાદ હતો એ કર્મયોગનો,
કદાચ અપવાદ હતો એ સાંખ્યયોગનો,
રમત રમતમાં નિર્ધારણ વર્ષની એ ગણતરી અધુરી રહી ગઈ;
કોણ જાણે  ? કોને કહું  ?  કવિની  કલ્પના   અધુરી  રહી  ગઈ.

આત્મસંયમની ધાર કેરી આરી એને બાંધી,
અડધી રાતે લાકડી તેડી લાવ્યો એતો ગાંધી,
એ  ગાંધી   કેરા  સાથી  ની  મૂરત  અધૂરી  રહી   ગઈ;
કોણ જાણે ? કોને કહું ? કવિ ની કલ્પના અધુરી રહી ગઈ.

એક જ સરખું આપનું આખી રાત ચલાવી આવ્યો,
એના અંતરમાં છાની પણ એક આગ લગાડી આવ્યો,
બેધ્યાન કરી એક ઘટના પાછી તળિયે અણદી ડૂબી ગઈ;
કોણ જાણે ? કોને કહું ? કવિ ની કલ્પના અધુરી રહી ગઈ.

બાતમીઓ નો મહાસાગર અવકાશ તળે ખૂટી ગયો,
ટીપું ટીપું ઉધાર માંગી આશ્વાસન એતો લૂંટી ગયો ,
બસ, કોઈક વ્યક્તિની કાચી ઓળખ એની વાત પૂરી કરી ગઈ;
કોણ જાણે ? કોને કહું ? કવિની  કલ્પના  અધુરી  રહી  ગઈ.

- ઋત્વિક વાડકર

Thursday, 11 April 2013

The Gudhi


Hello!
Today is our Maharashtrians' new year day. “ Gudhi Padwa”. I am going to discuss some interesting things about “The Gudhi”.

The Gudhi
On Guḍhī Pāḍavā, a gudhi is found sticking out of a window or otherwise prominently displayed in traditional Maharashtrian households. Bright green or yellow cloth adorned with brocade (zari) tied to the tip of a long bamboo over which gaathi (sugar crystals), neem leaves, a twig of mango leaves and a garland of red flowers is tied. A silver or copper pot is placed in the inverted position over it. Altogether, it is called as Gudhi. It is hoisted outside the house, in a window, terrace or a high place so that everybody can see it.

Some of the significances attributed to raising a Gudhi are as follows:
·         Maharashtrians also see the Gudhi as a symbol of victory associated with the conquests of theMaratha forces led by Chhatrapati Shivaji. It also symbolizes the victory of King Shalivahanaover Sakas and was hoisted by his people when he returned to Paithan
·         Gudhi symbolizes the Brahmadhvaj (translation: Brahma’s flag) mentioned in the Brahma Purana, because Lord Brahma created the universe on this day. It may also represent Indradhvaj (translation: the flag of Indra).
·         Mythologically, the Gudhi symbolizes Lord Rama’s victory and happiness on returning to Ayodhya after slaying Ravana. Since a symbol of victory is always held high, so is the gudi (flag). It is believed that this festival is celebrated to commemorate the coronation of Ramapost his return to Ayodhya after completing 14 years of exile
·         Gudhi is believed to ward off evil, invite prosperity and good luck into the house.
The Gudhi is positioned on the right side of the main entrance of the house. The right side symbolizes active state of the soul.

Festivities

Rangoli Images
On the festive day, courtyards in village houses will be swept clean and plastered with fresh cow-dung. Even in the city, people take the time out to do some spring cleaning. Women and children work on intricate rangoli designs on their doorsteps, the vibrant colours mirroring the burst of colour associated with spring. Everyone dresses up in new clothes and it is a time for family gatherings.
            Traditionally, families are supposed to begin the festivities by eating the bittersweet leaves of the neem tree. Sometimes, a paste of neem leaves is prepared and mixed with dhane, gul/gur (known as jaggery in English), andtamarind. All the members of the family consume this paste, which is believed to purify the blood and strengthen the body’s immune system against diseases.
Maharashtrian families also make shrikhand and Poori or Puran Poli on this day. Konkanis make Kanangachi Kheer, a variety of Kheer made of sweet potato, coconut milk, jaggery, rice flour, etc. and Sanna.

Wednesday, 12 December 2012

The GROW Model A Simple Process for Coaching and Mentoring

The GROW Model A Simple Process for Coaching and Mentoring

As a leader, one of your most important roles is to coach your people to do their best.
By doing this, you'll help them make better decisions, solve problems that are holding them back, learn new skills, and otherwise progress their careers.
Some people are fortunate enough to get formal training in coaching. However, many people have to develop this important skill themselves.
This may sound daunting. But if you arm yourself with some proven techniques, practice, and trust your instincts, you can become a great coach.
The GROW Model is a simple yet powerful framework for structuring your coaching ormentoring sessions. We'll look at how to apply the model in this article.

About the Model

GROW stands for:
  • Goal.
  • Current Reality.
  • Options (or Obstacles).
  • Will (or Way Forward).
The model was originally developed in the 1980s by performance coach Sir John Whitmore, although other coaches, such as Alan Fine and Graham Alexander, have also helped to develop it.
A good way of thinking about the GROW Model is to think about how you'd plan a journey. First, you decide where you are going (the goal), and establish where you currently are (your current reality).
You then explore various routes (the options) to your destination. In the final step, establishing the will, you ensure that you're committed to making the journey, and are prepared for the obstacles that you could meet on the way.
Tip: 
In its traditional application, the GROW Model assumes that the coach is not an expert in the "client's" situation. This means that the coach must act as a facilitator, helping the client select the best options, and not offering advice or direction.
When leaders coach their team members, or act as mentors to them, this may or may not apply. On one hand, it's more powerful for people to draw conclusions for themselves, rather than having these conclusions thrust upon them. On the other hand, as a team leader, you'll often have expert knowledge to offer. Also, it's your job to guide team members to make decisions that are best for your organization.

How to Use the Tool

To structure a coaching or mentoring session using the GROW Model, take the following steps:

1. Establish the Goal

First, you and your team member need to look at the behavior that you want to change, and then structure this change as a goal that she wants to achieve.
Make sure that this is a SMART goal: one that is Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Time-bound.
When doing this, it's useful to ask questions like:
  • How will you know that your team member has achieved this goal? How will you know that the problem or issue is solved?
  • Does this goal fit with her overall career objectives? And does it fit with the team's objectives?

2. Examine the Current Reality

Next, ask your team member to describe his current reality.
This is an important step: Too often, people try to solve a problem or reach a goal without fully considering their starting point, and often they're missing some information that they need in order to reach their goal effectively.
As your team member tells you about his current reality, the solution may start to emerge.
Useful coaching questions in this step include the following:
  • What is happening now (what, who, when, and how often)? What is the effect or result of this?
  • Have you already taken any steps towards your goal?
  • Does this goal conflict with any other goals or objectives?

3. Explore the Options

Once you and your team member have explored the current reality, it's time to determine what is possible – meaning all of the possible options for reaching her objective.
Help your team member brainstorm as many good options as possible. Then, discuss these and help her decide on the best ones.
By all means, offer your own suggestions in this step. But let your team member offer suggestions first, and let her do most of the talking. It's important to guide her in the right direction, without actually making decisions for her.
Typical questions that you can use to explore options are as follows:
  • What else could you do?
  • What if this or that constraint were removed? Would that change things?
  • What are the advantages and disadvantages of each option?
  • What factors or considerations will you use to weigh the options?
  • What do you need to stop doing in order to achieve this goal?
  • What obstacles stand in your way?

4. Establish the Will

By examining the current reality and exploring the options, your team member will now have a good idea of how he can achieve his goal.
That's great – but in itself, this may not be enough. The final step is to get your team member to commit to specific actions in order to move forward towards his goal. In doing this, you will help him establish his will and boost his motivation.
Useful questions to ask here include:
  • So, what will you do now, and when? What else will you do?
  • What could stop you moving forward? How will you overcome this?
  • How can you keep yourself motivated?
  • When do you need to review progress? Daily, weekly, monthly?
Finally, decide on a date when you'll both review his progress. This will provide some accountability, and allow him to change his approach if the original plan isn't working.
Tip 1:
A great way to practice using the model is to address your own challenges and issues. By practicing on your own and getting yourself "unstuck," you'll learn how to ask the most helpful questions. Then, write down some stock questions as prompts for future coaching sessions.
Tip 2:
The two most important skills for a coach are the ability to ask good questions and the ability to listen effectively.
Don't ask closed questions that call for a yes or no answer (such as "Did that cause a problem?"). Instead, ask open ones, like "What effect did that have?" Be prepared with a list of questions for each stage of the GROW process.
Use active listening skills and let your "client" do most of the talking. Remember that silence provides valuable thinking time: you don't always have to fill silence with the next question.

Example

You're helping a team member, Julie, achieve her goals using the GROW Model.
Julie says that she would like a promotion to team leader within the next two years. This is a SMART goal – it's specific, measurable, attainable (as she already has one year of experience, and there are several team leader positions in her department), relevant (both to Julie's overall career aspirations and the team's mission), and time-bound.
You and Julie now look at her current reality. She's in an entry-level position, but she already has some of the skills needed to be team leader. You brainstorm the additional skills that she'll need in order to be successful in a team leader role: She needs more experience of managing other people, and experience dealing with overseas customers. she also needs to continue performing well in her role, so that she'll be considered for a promotion when one is available.
You then both review her options. To get the experience she needs she could lead a small team on a small project. She could also spend time in the overseas team.
Finally, you establish the will. As her manager, you offer to let her lead a small team on a minor project. If she performs well, she can take on additional projects with more responsibility in the future. Julie must also approach the overseas team to arrange to spend time in that department, and continue performing well in her current role. You agree to review her progress in three months time.

Key Points

The GROW Model is a simple four-step process that helps you structure coaching and mentoring sessions with team members.
GROW is an acronym that stands for:
  • Goal.
  • Current Reality.
  • Options (or Obstacles).
  • Will (or Way Forward).
You can use the model to help team members improve performance, and to help them plan for and reach their longer-term career objectives.

Tuesday, 11 December 2012

A Mind Set


कुसुमस्तबकस्येव द्वयी वृत्तिर्मनस्विन:।
मूर्ध्नि वा सर्वलोकस्य विशीर्येत वनेऽथवा॥

People with high self respect have only two stages like flowers
Either they should be on top of the world or just shrivel away.

स्थानं उत्सृज्य गच्चंती सिम्हाहा सत्पुरुषा गजः |
तत्र एव निधानं यान्ति काकः कापुरुषा मृगः ||

The lions, elephants and the virtuous people with high self-esteem quit their position immediately once their esteem is hurt.

The crows, cats and the vicious people wish to continue in the same position.

When you are privileged to be Lion, don't life like a crow or cat.

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