Wednesday 12 December 2012

The GROW Model A Simple Process for Coaching and Mentoring

The GROW Model A Simple Process for Coaching and Mentoring

As a leader, one of your most important roles is to coach your people to do their best.
By doing this, you'll help them make better decisions, solve problems that are holding them back, learn new skills, and otherwise progress their careers.
Some people are fortunate enough to get formal training in coaching. However, many people have to develop this important skill themselves.
This may sound daunting. But if you arm yourself with some proven techniques, practice, and trust your instincts, you can become a great coach.
The GROW Model is a simple yet powerful framework for structuring your coaching ormentoring sessions. We'll look at how to apply the model in this article.

About the Model

GROW stands for:
  • Goal.
  • Current Reality.
  • Options (or Obstacles).
  • Will (or Way Forward).
The model was originally developed in the 1980s by performance coach Sir John Whitmore, although other coaches, such as Alan Fine and Graham Alexander, have also helped to develop it.
A good way of thinking about the GROW Model is to think about how you'd plan a journey. First, you decide where you are going (the goal), and establish where you currently are (your current reality).
You then explore various routes (the options) to your destination. In the final step, establishing the will, you ensure that you're committed to making the journey, and are prepared for the obstacles that you could meet on the way.
Tip: 
In its traditional application, the GROW Model assumes that the coach is not an expert in the "client's" situation. This means that the coach must act as a facilitator, helping the client select the best options, and not offering advice or direction.
When leaders coach their team members, or act as mentors to them, this may or may not apply. On one hand, it's more powerful for people to draw conclusions for themselves, rather than having these conclusions thrust upon them. On the other hand, as a team leader, you'll often have expert knowledge to offer. Also, it's your job to guide team members to make decisions that are best for your organization.

How to Use the Tool

To structure a coaching or mentoring session using the GROW Model, take the following steps:

1. Establish the Goal

First, you and your team member need to look at the behavior that you want to change, and then structure this change as a goal that she wants to achieve.
Make sure that this is a SMART goal: one that is Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Time-bound.
When doing this, it's useful to ask questions like:
  • How will you know that your team member has achieved this goal? How will you know that the problem or issue is solved?
  • Does this goal fit with her overall career objectives? And does it fit with the team's objectives?

2. Examine the Current Reality

Next, ask your team member to describe his current reality.
This is an important step: Too often, people try to solve a problem or reach a goal without fully considering their starting point, and often they're missing some information that they need in order to reach their goal effectively.
As your team member tells you about his current reality, the solution may start to emerge.
Useful coaching questions in this step include the following:
  • What is happening now (what, who, when, and how often)? What is the effect or result of this?
  • Have you already taken any steps towards your goal?
  • Does this goal conflict with any other goals or objectives?

3. Explore the Options

Once you and your team member have explored the current reality, it's time to determine what is possible – meaning all of the possible options for reaching her objective.
Help your team member brainstorm as many good options as possible. Then, discuss these and help her decide on the best ones.
By all means, offer your own suggestions in this step. But let your team member offer suggestions first, and let her do most of the talking. It's important to guide her in the right direction, without actually making decisions for her.
Typical questions that you can use to explore options are as follows:
  • What else could you do?
  • What if this or that constraint were removed? Would that change things?
  • What are the advantages and disadvantages of each option?
  • What factors or considerations will you use to weigh the options?
  • What do you need to stop doing in order to achieve this goal?
  • What obstacles stand in your way?

4. Establish the Will

By examining the current reality and exploring the options, your team member will now have a good idea of how he can achieve his goal.
That's great – but in itself, this may not be enough. The final step is to get your team member to commit to specific actions in order to move forward towards his goal. In doing this, you will help him establish his will and boost his motivation.
Useful questions to ask here include:
  • So, what will you do now, and when? What else will you do?
  • What could stop you moving forward? How will you overcome this?
  • How can you keep yourself motivated?
  • When do you need to review progress? Daily, weekly, monthly?
Finally, decide on a date when you'll both review his progress. This will provide some accountability, and allow him to change his approach if the original plan isn't working.
Tip 1:
A great way to practice using the model is to address your own challenges and issues. By practicing on your own and getting yourself "unstuck," you'll learn how to ask the most helpful questions. Then, write down some stock questions as prompts for future coaching sessions.
Tip 2:
The two most important skills for a coach are the ability to ask good questions and the ability to listen effectively.
Don't ask closed questions that call for a yes or no answer (such as "Did that cause a problem?"). Instead, ask open ones, like "What effect did that have?" Be prepared with a list of questions for each stage of the GROW process.
Use active listening skills and let your "client" do most of the talking. Remember that silence provides valuable thinking time: you don't always have to fill silence with the next question.

Example

You're helping a team member, Julie, achieve her goals using the GROW Model.
Julie says that she would like a promotion to team leader within the next two years. This is a SMART goal – it's specific, measurable, attainable (as she already has one year of experience, and there are several team leader positions in her department), relevant (both to Julie's overall career aspirations and the team's mission), and time-bound.
You and Julie now look at her current reality. She's in an entry-level position, but she already has some of the skills needed to be team leader. You brainstorm the additional skills that she'll need in order to be successful in a team leader role: She needs more experience of managing other people, and experience dealing with overseas customers. she also needs to continue performing well in her role, so that she'll be considered for a promotion when one is available.
You then both review her options. To get the experience she needs she could lead a small team on a small project. She could also spend time in the overseas team.
Finally, you establish the will. As her manager, you offer to let her lead a small team on a minor project. If she performs well, she can take on additional projects with more responsibility in the future. Julie must also approach the overseas team to arrange to spend time in that department, and continue performing well in her current role. You agree to review her progress in three months time.

Key Points

The GROW Model is a simple four-step process that helps you structure coaching and mentoring sessions with team members.
GROW is an acronym that stands for:
  • Goal.
  • Current Reality.
  • Options (or Obstacles).
  • Will (or Way Forward).
You can use the model to help team members improve performance, and to help them plan for and reach their longer-term career objectives.

Tuesday 11 December 2012

A Mind Set


कुसुमस्तबकस्येव द्वयी वृत्तिर्मनस्विन:।
मूर्ध्नि वा सर्वलोकस्य विशीर्येत वनेऽथवा॥

People with high self respect have only two stages like flowers
Either they should be on top of the world or just shrivel away.

स्थानं उत्सृज्य गच्चंती सिम्हाहा सत्पुरुषा गजः |
तत्र एव निधानं यान्ति काकः कापुरुषा मृगः ||

The lions, elephants and the virtuous people with high self-esteem quit their position immediately once their esteem is hurt.

The crows, cats and the vicious people wish to continue in the same position.

When you are privileged to be Lion, don't life like a crow or cat.

Saturday 8 December 2012

15 GREAT THOUGHTS BY CHANAKYA

1) "Learn from the mistakes of others... you can't live long enough to make them all yourselves!!"

2)"A person should not be too honest. Straight trees are cut first and Honest people are screwed first."

3)"Even if a snake is not poisonous, it should pretend to be venomous."

4)"There is some self-interest behind every friendship. There is no friendship without self-interests. This is a bitter truth."


5)" Before you start some work, always ask yourself three questions - Why am I doing it, What the results might be and Will I be successful. Only when you think deeply and find satisfactory answers to these questions, go ahead."


6)"As soon as the fear approaches near, attack and destroy it."


7)"The world's biggest power is the youth and beauty of a woman."


8)"Once you start a working on something, don't be afraid of failure and don't abandon it. People who work sincerely are the happiest."


9)"The fragrance of flowers spreads only in the direction of the wind. But the goodness of a person spreads in all direction."


10)"God is not present in idols. Your feelings are your god. The soul is your temple."


11) "A man is great by deeds, not by birth."


12) "Never make friends with people who are above or below you in status. Such friendships will never give you any happiness."


13) "Treat your kid like a darling for the first five years. For the next five years, scold them. By the time they turn sixteen, treat them like a friend. Your grown up children are your best friends."


14) "Books are as useful to a stupid person as a mirror is useful to a blind person."


15) "Education is the Best Friend. An Educated Person is Respected Everywhere. Education beats the Beauty and the Youth."

Friday 7 December 2012


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થોડું..ક... જગ જીતી લઈએ.


આજે આખું વિશ્વ જીતવાની જ વાત કરે છે
જીતેલા લોકોની પણ વાત લારે છે;
આપને પણ એ જ કરીએ છીએ, નહિ!
ચલ ને બકા આપણી પણ વાતો કોક ના મોઢે સંભાળીએ!
ચલ ને બકા, થો......ડૂક વિશ્વ જીતી લઈએ!

તને એમ લાગે છે કે તારી સ્વતંત્રતા ખોવાણી?
તને એમ લાગે છે કે તારી પાંખ ક્યાંક ઘવાણી  ?
નભ હજીએ તારું જ છે,
ફક્ત તારે એક ઉડાન જ ભરવાની બાકી છે;
 ચલ ને  બકા આપની ઘવાયેલી પાંખ ફરી બનાવીએ!
ચલ ને બકા  થો....ડૂક જગ જીતી લઈએ!

પુષ્પ ક્યારેય કોઈનુંય હોતું નથી,
જેણે લીધું તેનું પણ હોય છે,
જેણે ફેક્યું તેનું પણ;
કચડીને પણ તે સુવાસ જ ફેલાવે છે,
મને પણ તેવું મહેકતા આવડે છે;
ચલ ને બકા આપને થો...ડૂક મહેકીએ!
ચલ ને બકા થો....ડૂક જગ જીતી લઈએ!

મારું બારણું મને જ નથી મળતું;
તારું બારણું જડે તો પણ તારું નથી લાગતું,
તે બારણું ખોલવું જ કેમનું,
જે બારણું આપણું નથી લાગતું!
ચલ ને બકા એક આપણું જ બારણું બનાવીએ!
ચલ ને બકા થો....ડૂક જગ જીતી લઈએ!

ક્યાંક કશે આપને જ ભૂલા પડીએ છીએ,
ક્યાં ભૂલા પડ્યા તે હું પણ શોધું છું,
ચલ ને બકા આપને આપના મન નો અભ્યાસ કરીએ;
ચલ ને બકા આપને ક્યાં ભૂલા પડ્યા તે જાણીએ;
ચલ ને બકા થો....ડૂક જગ જીતી લઈએ!

માણસ ની ગણતરી કેમની થાય તેની મને ખાવર નથી;
મારી ગણતરી કોઈએ કેવી કરી તે પણ મને ખબર નથી;
ચાલ છોડ આ ગણતરી,
ચલ ને બકા આપને એક આપણું જ ગણિત કેળવીએ!
ચલ ને બકા થો..ડૂક જગ જીતી લઈએ!

જીવન અને મૃત્યુ આતો નિયમ જ રહ્યો;
પણ પ્રત્યેક માનસ એક યાદ બનીને રહ્યો;
હું પણ ક્યારેક જઈશ,
તું પણ ક્યારેક જઈશ,
ચલ ને બકા થો....ડીક યાદો છોડીને જઈએ,
ચલ ને બકા થો.......ડૂક પણ જગ જીતી લઈએ.

-ઋત્વિક વાડકર

थो....डस जग जिंकूया


आज पूर्ण विश्व, जिंकायची च गोष्ट करतंय
जीन्कालेल्यांची पण गोष्ट करतंय ;
आपण पण तेच करत राह्यलोय, नाही !
चल न गडे आपली पण गोष्ट आईकुया |
चल न गडे थो....डस जग जिंकूया ||


तुला आस वाटतंय कि तुझी स्वतंत्र्यता हरवली?
तुला आस वाटतंय कि तू तुझी पांख कुठेतरी घालवली?
आकाश अझुनही तुझं आहे ,
फक्त तला एक उडान भरायची आहे;
चल न गडे आपली घालवलेली एक पांख घडवूया| 
चल न गडे थो....डस जग जिंकूया || 


फूल कधी कोणाचं नसतं,
जेनी घेतल तेच च असतं,
पण जेनी फेकलं तेच पण;
चगदुनही ते सुवास देतं
मला पण तसं महेकता येत;
चल न गडे थो....डस महेकुया |
चल न गडे थो...डस जग जिंकूया ||


माझं दार मला नाई सापडत ,
तुझं दार सापडलं तरी ते तुझं नाई वाटत;
ते दार उघडायच कसलं,
जे   आपलं        नसलं,
चल न गडे एक आपलं पण दार बनवूया|
चल न गडे थो...डस जग जिंकूया ||


कुठेतरी आपण च चूकतोय;
कुठे चूक राह्यली ती मी पण शोधतोय;
चल न गडे थोडासा मनाचा आभ्यास करूया|
चल न गडे आपली पण चूक शोधूया|
चल न गडे थो...डस जग जिंकूया ||


मनुष्याची गणतरी कशी असते ती मला नाई माहित; 
माझी गणतरी कोणी कशी केली ती पण नाई माहित;
चल सोड हि गणतरी च;
चल न गडे एक स्वताहा च गणित केलावूया|
 चल न गडे थो...डस जग जिंकूया ||


जीवन आणि मृत्यू हा तर नियम च राह्यला, 
पण प्रत्येक माणूस एक आठवण म्हणून राह्यला;
मी पण कधी तरी जाणार,
तू पण कधी तरी जाणार ;
चल न गडे थो...डीशी आठवण सोडून जाऊया| 
चल न गडे थो...डस ,पण जग जिंकूया ||


-ऋत्विक वाडकर 

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