Tale-1. A father of two baby girls is
doctor, arrested during in apple pie order, under Pre-conception and Prenatal
Diagnostic Techniques (Prohibition of Sex Selection) Act for prenatal testing.
Tale-2. A minister arrested for corruption.
Tale-3. A man holding extraordinary
educational qualifications and securing a rank in IQ test of well-known
organisation was divorced for not balancing with family life and work life.
Can you think what
need in these above stories was? Values! What do you mean ‘Value’? If you are
thinking about An amount, answer of a mathematical equation etc. then simply
stop. Open your mind (Not Dictionaries or Book) and think about it.Write
somewhere the meaning you derived from your own mind about ‘Value’.
Before we go to
the meaning, think about few items for ‘What is important to me?’ Physical
appearance, family life, being honest, to have power (Political, Money etc.), respect,
Marriage, Love, Satisfaction, Success, Accomplishment, Enjoyment, Be trusted,
etc.What?
Meaning of Values
There are so many
debatable questions and dilemmas about Values in Life.According to me, Values
are those inner standards from which you receive the motivation to act as you
do and by which you judge behaviour (both yours and others). It may signify
what is important and worthwhile according to moral codes and ethical
behaviours. Your value might be based on many aspects like, family religion,
social background, gender etc. But they do guide individuals, professionals and
Institutions.
Now, follow steps
written after this para. Open your Notebook and write down 10-20 names of
values you mean e.g. ethics, honesty, family,Veracity etc. and give rank top
ten Values according to you. A good way to do this is to look into your past
life to identify your good choices of decision. Define those ten Values and
write them. Remember, after this task you are going to follow youar values
according to the list because after doing this you will try to follow your
values and make difference.
Step 1: Look into your past when you were happiest
Step 2: Look into your past when you were most
proud
Step 3 Look into your past when you were most
fulfilled and satisfied
Step 4: Determine your top values, based on your
experiences of happiness, pride, and fulfillment
Step 5: Prioritize your top Values
Step 6: Reaffirm your values
Values are usually
fairly stable, yet they don't have strict limits or boundaries. Also, as you
move through life, your values may change. For example, when you start your
career, success – measured by money and status – might be a top priority. But
after you have a family, work-life balance may be what you value more.
As your definition
of success changes, so do your personal values. This is why keeping in touch
with your values is a lifelong exercise. You should continuously revisit this,
especially if you start to feel unbalanced... and you can't quite figure out
why.
Identifying and
understanding your values is a challenging and important exercise. Your
personal values are a central part of who you are – and who you want to be. By
becoming more aware of these important factors in your life, you can use them
as a guide to make the best choice in any situation.
Some of life's
decisions are really about determining what you value most. When many options
seem reasonable, it's helpful and comforting to rely on your values – and use
them as a strong guiding force to point you in the right direction.
Why we need to have Values in Life?
The answer comes
after following your values of life. Values plays vial role to build a
character. Sometimes if you desperate of being value follower, be brave, honest
and faithful to yourself. Right equations of success always have calculated use
of correct values.Shree Sai Baba said, “Man is lost and is wandering in a
jungle where real values have no meaning. Real Values can have meaning to man
only when he steps on to the spiritual path, a path where negative emotions
have no use”. When you value something, it has a positive quality for you.
So, be
an anchor of your values that lost at sea.
वनेऽपि सिंहा मॄगमांसभक्षिणो बुभुक्षिता नैव तॄणं चरन्ति |
एवं कुलीना व्यसनाभिभूता न नीचकर्माणि समाचरन्ति ||
Lions in forest,
who eat flesh of other animals - will not eat grass even if they are very
hungry. Similarly, persons born in good families will not perform any
misconduct even in odds. Meaning of respectable family should be taken here as
families with values.
